How To Be A Badass

In my book, Your Badass Body, one of the first sections of the book is titled, “Building A Badass.” This section breaks down all of the different aspects I encourage everyone to consider when they’re determining how, and where, to aim their efforts when it comes to their training and diet programs.

Nearly all of the training books I’ve read either breeze over this topic or neglect it completely, and I understand why - if you pick up a book on getting big arms, they know what you want: big arms. If you pick up a book on weight loss, they know what you want: weight loss. So why was it so important to me to have this discussion in the book? The reason is that too many books, and too many of us, focus on a single thing. Sure you want big arms but there are a bunch of other things you could do at the same time you build your biceps that wont detract from your main goal and can add a pile of benefit to you as you go.

Allow me to elaborate with the three headings from Building A Badass with a brief explanation of what you should be considering when it comes to each.

#1: What do you want to look like?

I get that it’s not super cool to talk about your vanity goals but WHO CARES, we all have them. If I could tell you the number of times I’ve talked to someone about their goals and heard things like, “more energy, better health, blah blah blah” but when I ask them if they’d trade all of those things (not that you have to!) to feel 100% confident when they take their clothes off the answer is always yes.

Same thing goes for, “Oh, I don’t know. Maybe I’d like to drop 10 pounds or so” when really the person knows that in a perfect world they would be 30 pounds lighter and have the body they did 10 years ago - which they can do by the way - as long as they’re honest about it and get put on the path that leads there as opposed to the path that’s simply built around “health” and “10 pounds or so.”

So, number one, be honest with yourself about what you really want to look like and write it down before you move on to number two…

#2: What do you want to be able to do?

Ya, ya it sounds good to say you want to be able to play with your kids and run a 5k but let’s be serious, if what you really want is to crush people on the basketball court again or run your first marathon you’re going to need to focus on it and the first part of that is being real with what you want.

You can do almost anything if you dedicate yourself to it, trust me, our gym record board and the feats people just like you are pulling off in there every day are more than enough proof - but they can do these things because that’s where they aimed and they aimed there because they were honest about wanting it.

When it comes to this goal, dream big. Let’s use the marathon example - the marathon being the out-of-this-world, A+ goal you have for yourself and the 5k being the safe, boring thing you can tell everyone so you don’t risk failing. Let’s say you give the marathon everything you’ve got and you just don’t have it, you run a half marathon and crap out.

You know who’s impressed with that? EVERYONE.

It’s cliche but its better to aim big and not make it than to aim small and only hit it so make sure you dig deep on this one and aim big.

Last but not least…

#3: How do you want to feel?

This is an important, but rarely considered aspect, of goal planning.

Why does this matter do much?

This matters because it’s really about what you’re willing to pay for what you want. If you want to feel healthy, well rested and generally “good” all the time that’s cool but it might mean adjusting your goals above OR simply stretching the time line in which you plan to hit them.

For me, personally, I do not give a SH!T about this at all so in order to hit my other goals I do everything I can, as hard as I can, as much as I can and I live with the consequences. Now, this approach is definitely not for everyone and that’s cool, it doesn’t need to be - and honestly it kind of sucks sometimes, but the reason it works is because I thought about it before hand. I’m not surprised when I’m beat up or tired or whatever because I knew going in that was the deal I was willing to make - and that’s really the heart of this point, making sure you can live with the deal you’re making.

So there you have it, the three things you want to discuss with yourself and chew on as you get rolling into a program and/or a diet that will help ensure that you’re not only chasing the goals you really care about but that you’re setting out on a path you’ll be able to see through!

Good luck!

PS. If you want more direction with this you can pick up a copy of my book on Amazon by clicking HERE or reach out to me personally at craig@lilsgym.com and we can talk about how to dig into this process and if I or any of my trainers can help.

Craig Bongelli